Why We Choose Anything Over Uncertainty
My son has always needed to know what’s coming next. When he was little we had to literally give him a step-by-step agenda of where we were going, what we were doing, and how long we’d be there. He needed the comfort of knowing what to expect. If he didn’t have that assurance he was…
It’s Not About Boxing
My husband and I recently saw “Creed III” in the theaters. It was enjoyable and matched a similar pattern to the Rocky films (don’t worry, I won’t give spoilers). You know the pattern – a boxer having an internal crisis ends up working it out in the boxing ring. That’s how I felt in affair…
Battling Resentment After an Affair
I watched a fantastic interview with Brene Brown today that sparked my curiosity around the root of resentment. I had always felt that resentment was an outcome of unresolved anger. And, perhaps to some degree it could be. But, Brene shared her theory that resentment forms out of our envy for another person. And, that…
Loving Ourselves Better
I love Miley’s new song, “Flowers.” It’s short, it’s simple, and yet the point it makes is spot on. I know there is a lot of speculation regarding Miley’s subtext surrounding this song – was this a revenge song after her husband cheated on her? Who knows. But, the lyrics tell the story of a…
The View is Worth It!
Back in December of 2016, Steve and I spent a heavenly two weeks on two Hawaiian islands to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. The top activity on both of our lists to do while there was hiking – especially on beautiful Kauai island. This is the oldest of the Hawaiian islands, and one of the…
Out With the Old, In With the New
I have this funny little plant in my bathroom. Steve and I think we got it years ago when our daughter was having minor surgery. He kept it at his office for a long time, but now that he works from home so much it lives in our bathroom so it stays watered. I adore…
Don’t Let Your Emotions Take the Wheel
Years ago, our teenage daughter got us hooked on an MTV show called Catfish. As you can see from Urban Dictionary’s definition, this show follows hosts that help people find out if they are being “catfished” and who the “catfish” really is. It seems to be an emotional roller coaster for the victim as they find out…
Unfollow for a Healthier Life
I unfollowed someone on Facebook recently. I’ve only used this nifty tool a handful of times over my 9+ years on Facebook, but each time I’ve appreciated the opportunity to keep a “friendship” while also keeping my sanity. You may relate to the dilemma I encountered – You have a friend on Facebook that you…
Tend Now, Avoid a Mess Later
Last weekend was awful. Steve and I spent all day Saturday and Sunday after church cleaning out a flower bed next to our house. I can’t begin to tell you how many weeds I pulled, how many shrubs I dug up and replaced, how many bags of mulch I hauled from my car to the…
About Me
Hi, I’m Monica Humpal, Master Certified Coach and a betrayed wife who has come out on the other side of affair recovery stronger and healthier. This blog is for women, like me, who are working through the devastation of an affair. This is challenging, especially for those of us who are choosing to remain in and heal their marriage. I hope you find some comfort and inspiration in these posts and can find healing on the journey toward a happy and healthy life marriage.
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