Two weeks ago, my husband passed away. I’ve hesitated to share this because, for a while, I had no words. But now, in the stillness of being alone, the quiet is helping me find my voice again. I chose to spend a month in Scotland to heal after his death. I needed space. I needed […]
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Sometimes, I felt like I was losing my mind during affair recovery. One day, I could barely get out of bed, let alone go to work, be a mom, or even take a shower. Then, the next day, I’d feel almost normal—maybe even a little happy. I was all over the place, caught between devastation
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This is the second post in a series I’m writing on grief. If you haven’t read my first post, I encourage you to do so before diving into this one. While this series focuses on grief, it also addresses the challenges of affair recovery—a journey I know all too well. When my husband reconnected with
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This post (and the few following posts) are about recovering from infidelity and navigating grief—but more than anything, they are about the messy, heartbreaking journey of grief itself. In early 2017, I discovered my husband had reconnected with his affair partner. Shortly after, we separated, and on February 7, 2017, he moved into an apartment
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My son has always needed to know what’s coming next. When he was little we had to literally give him a step-by-step agenda of where we were going, what we were doing, and how long we’d be there. He needed the comfort of knowing what to expect. If he didn’t have that assurance he was
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My husband and I recently saw “Creed III” in the theaters. It was enjoyable and matched a similar pattern to the Rocky films (don’t worry, I won’t give spoilers). You know the pattern – a boxer having an internal crisis ends up working it out in the boxing ring. That’s how I felt in affair
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I watched a fantastic interview with Brene Brown today that sparked my curiosity around the root of resentment. I had always felt that resentment was an outcome of unresolved anger. And, perhaps to some degree it could be. But, Brene shared her theory that resentment forms out of our envy for another person. And, that
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I love Miley’s new song, “Flowers.” It’s short, it’s simple, and yet the point it makes is spot on. I know there is a lot of speculation regarding Miley’s subtext surrounding this song – was this a revenge song after her husband cheated on her? Who knows. But, the lyrics tell the story of a
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Back in December of 2016, Steve and I spent a heavenly two weeks on two Hawaiian islands to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. The top activity on both of our lists to do while there was hiking – especially on beautiful Kauai island. This is the oldest of the Hawaiian islands, and one of the
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I have this funny little plant in my bathroom. Steve and I think we got it years ago when our daughter was having minor surgery. He kept it at his office for a long time, but now that he works from home so much it lives in our bathroom so it stays watered. I adore
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